Self Pleasure Practice happening during the live and common beliefs men may hold about their wives’ with sexuality and two things wives usually want in their relationships
When I first started learning yoga and eventually becoming a teacher who then trained other teachers, people told me I was in a cult. That I was committing devil postures. That I would somehow be possessed. Others insisted yoga was for relaxation and tranquility and yes, some styles offer exactly that.
Some told me I was stupid for doing yoga. Others said that because I did yoga, I should have no emotions whatsoever and remain calm at all times. And if I did have an emotion, it was clearly something to be managed, because I did yoga, and that was unacceptable.
The yoga I experienced was EDM at 95 degrees Fahrenheit, dancing, jumping jacks, ultraviolet lights. I had fun. It was challenging, physically and mentally stimulating, hard and exciting at the same time. Nothing like what I had envisioned. Nothing like what anyone had warned me about.
If you want to invalidate my yoga experience or what people said to me go for it. Tell me I am wrong about my own experience. I do not care.
What is your beliefs to yoga?
Think what you want that this is an awful, nasty, catastrophic thing occurring. That is your right, and everyone is entitled to an opinion.
The association to the aversion feelings with masturbation is high for many. How do you know if you are masturbation averse? You will know if you have aversion if you have feelings of disgust. I do plan to write a lot more about masturbation this month.
Continue to read towards the end to learn about the two most common things women want in their relationships.
Masturbation does carry shame and guilt for many people through societal programming yet I hope to talk about masturbation and share new perspectives for you to consider throughout the month.
According to TodaysChristianWoman.com “the Bible is silent on the issue of masturbation and says a whole lot about adultery. Masturbation is a complicated issue that doesn't lend to a clear black and white answer. I want to be realistic about the struggle without giving freedom that God perhaps hasn't given.”
This might feel like or actually be a violation of everything, or some things, you have been taught about how a woman’s life is supposed to work. I understand. I had those beliefs too.
What is your belief to masturbation?
What is your belief to vibrators?
And, what is your belief masturbation live?
Self Pleasure Practice happening during the live and common beliefs men may hold about their wives’ with sexuality and two things wives usually want in their relationships
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I am not saying he is right and you are wrong. I am not saying this is happening in your life. I am not saying he is wrong and you are right.
I am saying I will go share possible common beliefs that may show up, and I will include the indications that may be present. The point is not for me to tell you what is true. The point is to give you something you can decode, sit with, get curious about. Or not. If it feels true for you, take it. If it doesn’t, leave it. Find whatever middle ground works for you.
A note for my male subscribers, since most of my subscribers are men: this is a self-pleasure practice designed for a woman’s body. And tomorrow’s live may help you identify limiting beliefs of your own. Maybe it won’t. The mirror works in both directions.
This might help. It might be terribly unhelpful. I have no idea what your experience will be, and I am not promising you anything except this:
Thirty minutes of carved-out pleasure practice with no expectation of orgasm. Some guidance for what to do in your body and if you don’t like the guidance, fucking throw it out the window. Do you.
Then ten minutes of journaling space to form words around what you actually felt. Reflect.
Don’t want to write? Don’t. Do you. I am not going to twist your arm or chase you down.
A lot of studies reveal women (men too yet I am writing for a woman reader I am not saying men do not want these two things too) like two things written in an article by The Libido Fairy.
Women like knowing the WHY to things, which is something that was taught thoroughly in one of the schools for yoga. Teaching the WHY the students were doing this pose like saying the pose activates these muscles.
Women like MOMENTUM a sense of progress is fulfilling for many women to experience along their journey.
Why? Because you are building safety in your nervous system through your body, your clit, your breath, your hands, your eyes, your brain. This makes change easier for you and calms the survival response of the amygdala back into reset. That is why #1. Might not be a why for you.
Why? Because when you can communicate what you like, you are certifiably way more likely to get it. That is why #2.
Women like MOMENTUM. A sense of progress is fulfilling…this self pleasure practice is building momentum for your pleasure. Either way. Don’t like my whys? Pick a why that works for you. Vibrator? Cool. No vibrator? Cool. Lube? Cool. No lube? Cool.
I have done more critical thinking about sexuality, marriage, female desire, and what bodies are for than at any other point in my life, and thank goodness I have an embodied practice to get me out of my head and connected to my body, to feel. If touching my clit is what gets me there, so be it. Clit action is what it will be.
This will not align with everyone. I am not saying it should. And why should anything align with everyone?
This could be helpful. Therapy could be helpful. EFT could be helpful. Hypnosis could be helpful. Cold showers could be helpful. Books could be helpful. Dancing could be helpful. Animals could be helpful. Art could be helpful. Cooking could be helpful. Talking to yourself could be helpful. Cleaning could be helpful. Cryotherapy could be helpful. Acupuncture could be helpful. Board games could be helpful. Nature could be helpful. Travel could be helpful. Foreign language could be helpful. NLP could be helpful. AI could be helpful. A bikini could be helpful. A cat could be helpful. A piece of fruit could be helpful.
I am not discounting any method you choose for yourself over this. I am not saying this is right for you. I am not saying it is wrong for you.
And if you want to make the masturbation practice a horrible, hateful, despicable thing that is your right too. I am not implying that you do.
I am not a medical doctor. I am not asking you to show me your body, and I do not want to see your body unless that is what you want to do. This is your body, your space. I don’t need to see your genitals in any way.
The level of criticism, judgement, self-loathing, and self-hatred around sex is something I have personally never quite witnessed elsewhere in my life. Want to post things against this? Go for it.
The lack of information about sex stretches further than I ever could have fathomed.
SWAK 💋,
Samantha KindHeart
